Although boys often bully in a physical way, girls’ style of bullying tends to be more indirect. Girls bully by creating a hostile environment for their victims; they may spread rumors or exclude their targets from activities. “In a way, it’s easier [to do] because it’s not direct,” Charles Williams, clinical psychologist, says. And because it’s soContinue reading “Bully Myth #8: Boys are more likely to be bullied”
“Parent-to-parent meetings can get nasty,” says Williams, who advises parents of victims to refrain from contacting bullies’ parents. The situation, already fraught with emotion, often gets only more heated when parents leap into the fray. (But if parents insist on talking with each other, Williams suggests they use a mediator.) Instead, start with the school.Continue reading “Bully Myth #7: If your child is a victim, call the bully’s parents”
In fact, parents can help pave the way for bullying behavior in kids when they don’t teach their children to respect differences in people. Some parents may pay lip service to the idea that all people are equal, but if their actions reveal a different attitude, their kids will pick up on it. If parentsContinue reading “Bully Myth #6: Parental attitudes have no effect on bullying”
“Clearly, social gain is at the root of 95 percent of bullying,” Mayer says. So the idea that the bully is “on top” is “almost nonsense,” he says. Why? “If they were at the top, they wouldn’t be as motivated toward bullying behavior.” Both Mayer and Williams agree that bullying is most often motivatedContinue reading “Bully Myth #5: Bullies are from the top of the social pecking order”
Because bullying scenarios vary so widely, no single response can be prescribed. The complicated truth is that different situation — and different kids — call for different actions. The key is thinking about these actions (and reactions) and discussing them with your child. Source: Great Kids!