Bullying Myth #10: Parents are always their kids’ best defender

Charles Williams clinical psychologist says that too often he sees parents who dismiss their children’s reports of being teased and taunted. “You’d be surprised at how adults respond. They tell their kids to stop tattling or stop whining.” Teachers and other school leaders have also dismissed the problem, says Williams, often with tragic results. AuthorContinue reading “Bullying Myth #10: Parents are always their kids’ best defender”

Bullying Myth #9: Cyber-bullying is the gateway to other bullying

Actually, most bullying starts with face-to-face encounters and later may progress to texting, social media, and YouTube — which ups the harassment and humiliation with even more hurtful, and possibly fatal, results. All the more reason to stop bullying before it goes viral, says Charles Williams clinical psychologist. If adults are vigilant and stop the bullyingContinue reading “Bullying Myth #9: Cyber-bullying is the gateway to other bullying”

Bully Myth #8: Boys are more likely to be bullied

Although boys often bully in a physical way, girls’ style of bullying tends to be more indirect. Girls bully by creating a hostile environment for their victims; they may spread rumors or exclude their targets from activities. “In a way, it’s easier [to do] because it’s not direct,” Charles Williams, clinical psychologist, says. And because it’s soContinue reading “Bully Myth #8: Boys are more likely to be bullied”

Bully Myth #7: If your child is a victim, call the bully’s parents

“Parent-to-parent meetings can get nasty,” says Williams, who advises parents of victims to refrain from contacting bullies’ parents. The situation, already fraught with emotion, often gets only more heated when parents leap into the fray. (But if parents insist on talking with each other, Williams suggests they use a mediator.) Instead, start with the school.Continue reading “Bully Myth #7: If your child is a victim, call the bully’s parents”

Bully Myth #6: Parental attitudes have no effect on bullying

In fact, parents can help pave the way for bullying behavior in kids when they don’t teach their children to respect differences in people. Some parents may pay lip service to the idea that all people are equal, but if their actions reveal a different attitude, their kids will pick up on it. If parentsContinue reading “Bully Myth #6: Parental attitudes have no effect on bullying”